16 --yea, wateva!--
mmm... slacks time is over i guess, but i dont think im ready to get back to the story i'm writing earlier, i've kinda like.. lost the OHM for it... or rather, let me warm up 1st! =)
Lets c, xmas, new year, chinese new year and valentines has passed in my absence from this blog. I've actually lost alot of blogging material in between... =( (Awwwww) Oh well, *shrugs*
Something has been bugging me the last few days though... or rather, i've actually thought of it only recently. As how i got to this thought, i've no idea, i guess u can call this godsent! =) (OMFG, i'm a hidden genius.. haha) Alright alright, let me get to today's topic of discussion... Ahem~ ;D
i remember watching some romantic mushy movies about love and some suave casanova said this " Love is having never to say u're sorry!" In some sense, this sentence is effective against all suckers of romantic ramblings. Lots of lovers out there agree to this statement and without fail, this statement holds true to many relationships out there! Be it couples, friends, colleagues or aquaintances... Sorry seems to be the word thats used when people are not that close to each other, that is when they really mean it! When facing people that u know very well, sorry seldom means anything significant, it could perhaps just be some habit of yours which you use for the sake of convenience.
Anyway, i think that this phrase is terribly awful! Its actually an abomination to the relationship world! Espeically in the examples of couples...
The phrase should juz easily be "Love is being able to say u're sorry!" Yet, being in an egoistic and sacrastic world-- where the idea of eq isnt in the mainstream education, "i'm sorry" seems to be a very very hard word to say to anyone! Especially those that u mean it! People are always reluctant to admit they are wrong and ask for forgiveness! =/
Some months ago, i received an email from someone and in it, carries some interesting quotes! Anyway, from those quotes, i realized something, reading so many things about being a better person and etc., i suddenly feel that its actually the apologizing part that is of the initial importance! U know, like trying to eat medcine when u think your body isnt feeling really good... the bottom line is, it's an act wherby u can stop some heated scenario from escalating to full blown war!
My mom used to tell me this... " There are 2 statements that people dont use enough that could change the world: thank you and i'm sorry." Hahaha... now i brought my mom in, but isnt it the weirdest thing in the world?? My mom graduated with o'levels only, and the irony is, she seems to be smarter in this sense! THe irony of it all isnt it? We can study til we get a bacherlor, MBA, master, Dr., etc. and we may still not have a clue on how important all these are. And someone who came out with a o'lvl cert knows the importance of it! =)
What does this means? It just means that the god damn government should start doing something about our emotion intelligence!!! Our education mainstream concentrated only on Building IQ and feeding all sorts of knowledge into our puny brains, but they didnt teach us how to control our emotions, they didnt teach us on the importance of courtesy, they didnt teach us how to handle stress, and they didnt teach us the ways of life!
Civilization evolved every now and then and by far, our culture should be at a heightened state! But noooo, we have advanced with age with better technology and everything but our emotional intelligence has degraded into the abysmal pits! Aristotle have many theories that made so much sense, but he lives in b.c. era! In times where Europe was in war-torn state! (europe wasnt called europe then!) Warring has always brought alot of suffering and chaos, and in times of darkness, it also shows man of genuity! Of utmost empathy and emotion intelligence!
So this kept me thinking, do we need anotehr war to show people what is empathy? My feelings are, it better be global or people juz wont take it seriously! The other day, when tsunami hit, new year celebrations was defaulted! Many of my friends commenced with their celebrations while the people in Achar is suffering from woes and everything. Not that i want to mourn and everything but with the suffering, how would anyone with the right mind of empathy be in the mood for that? People have taken everything around them for granted, one tsunami hit and then u'll start thinking and regretting about all the things u've done and not done!
Anyway,i'm juz wondering where all the emotional intelligence went in everyone! Where have their wisdom gone to after all these years of living? (mind u that wisdom and intelligence is different, though they are pretty much linked)
I'll tell a lil' about IQ and EQ. IQ is actually an innate ability, people are born with it! Thats y u c some ppl seemed to learn things faster than others.. or remember things better! EQ are things that u learn throughout your life, many ppl have to learn about the "right thing' to do! Some ppl are smart and breezed through their life and remain ignorant about everything! Some ppl have EQ and used too much of it and gained nothing in the end too! Those who uses both well are the winners in life, winners in relationship-wise and achivement wise! =)
The irony of it all is... our civilization is still moving forward, nothing much has been done to address this issues! Only some of the more developed countries have researchers in the humanitarian science! Many a times, ppl think its just superficial! hahaha... well, think back on many instances on how "sorry", "thank you", "forgive me", "excuse me" and "your welcome" saved your ass from many unhappy issues that may happen?
People can use those lavishly though, i know it aint a crime, its just that many ppl say them unkowingly nowdays that it doesnt seem to mean much anymore... =/
I myself dont like to use them sparingly, and many ppl says i'm a fucked up retarded thug! Oh well, i just dont like to use them without a proper purpose! =)
One more thign i've noticed about ppl (including me) is that there's always a need for RIGHT or WRONG! The higher the hirachy sector u r, the more it is about right or wrong! Isnt it weird? ppl of higher stature always indulge in the right and wrong thingy... =/ Arguements in relationships often ends up in one being right and the other one being wrong... employees and employers end up with the same thing. What is wrong with everyone btw? What is wrong with the world? Right and wrong is taught in the mainstream education.. DuH, all problem questions in maths and science is either right or wrong! hahaha , so i guess ppl kinda like.... brought it to the usage in their life and eureka!, here we are!
If people can give up the stand of being "right" and learn to be apologetic for their mistakes, the world will be a better place! Sadly, this is not to be in the real world! I can only find this in the world of Utopia! But hey, at least i'm trying, its better than giving up though! Very much better!
Oh well, say hello to the real world! =)
Lets c, xmas, new year, chinese new year and valentines has passed in my absence from this blog. I've actually lost alot of blogging material in between... =( (Awwwww) Oh well, *shrugs*
Something has been bugging me the last few days though... or rather, i've actually thought of it only recently. As how i got to this thought, i've no idea, i guess u can call this godsent! =) (OMFG, i'm a hidden genius.. haha) Alright alright, let me get to today's topic of discussion... Ahem~ ;D
i remember watching some romantic mushy movies about love and some suave casanova said this " Love is having never to say u're sorry!" In some sense, this sentence is effective against all suckers of romantic ramblings. Lots of lovers out there agree to this statement and without fail, this statement holds true to many relationships out there! Be it couples, friends, colleagues or aquaintances... Sorry seems to be the word thats used when people are not that close to each other, that is when they really mean it! When facing people that u know very well, sorry seldom means anything significant, it could perhaps just be some habit of yours which you use for the sake of convenience.
Anyway, i think that this phrase is terribly awful! Its actually an abomination to the relationship world! Espeically in the examples of couples...
The phrase should juz easily be "Love is being able to say u're sorry!" Yet, being in an egoistic and sacrastic world-- where the idea of eq isnt in the mainstream education, "i'm sorry" seems to be a very very hard word to say to anyone! Especially those that u mean it! People are always reluctant to admit they are wrong and ask for forgiveness! =/
Some months ago, i received an email from someone and in it, carries some interesting quotes! Anyway, from those quotes, i realized something, reading so many things about being a better person and etc., i suddenly feel that its actually the apologizing part that is of the initial importance! U know, like trying to eat medcine when u think your body isnt feeling really good... the bottom line is, it's an act wherby u can stop some heated scenario from escalating to full blown war!
My mom used to tell me this... " There are 2 statements that people dont use enough that could change the world: thank you and i'm sorry." Hahaha... now i brought my mom in, but isnt it the weirdest thing in the world?? My mom graduated with o'levels only, and the irony is, she seems to be smarter in this sense! THe irony of it all isnt it? We can study til we get a bacherlor, MBA, master, Dr., etc. and we may still not have a clue on how important all these are. And someone who came out with a o'lvl cert knows the importance of it! =)
What does this means? It just means that the god damn government should start doing something about our emotion intelligence!!! Our education mainstream concentrated only on Building IQ and feeding all sorts of knowledge into our puny brains, but they didnt teach us how to control our emotions, they didnt teach us on the importance of courtesy, they didnt teach us how to handle stress, and they didnt teach us the ways of life!
Civilization evolved every now and then and by far, our culture should be at a heightened state! But noooo, we have advanced with age with better technology and everything but our emotional intelligence has degraded into the abysmal pits! Aristotle have many theories that made so much sense, but he lives in b.c. era! In times where Europe was in war-torn state! (europe wasnt called europe then!) Warring has always brought alot of suffering and chaos, and in times of darkness, it also shows man of genuity! Of utmost empathy and emotion intelligence!
So this kept me thinking, do we need anotehr war to show people what is empathy? My feelings are, it better be global or people juz wont take it seriously! The other day, when tsunami hit, new year celebrations was defaulted! Many of my friends commenced with their celebrations while the people in Achar is suffering from woes and everything. Not that i want to mourn and everything but with the suffering, how would anyone with the right mind of empathy be in the mood for that? People have taken everything around them for granted, one tsunami hit and then u'll start thinking and regretting about all the things u've done and not done!
Anyway,i'm juz wondering where all the emotional intelligence went in everyone! Where have their wisdom gone to after all these years of living? (mind u that wisdom and intelligence is different, though they are pretty much linked)
I'll tell a lil' about IQ and EQ. IQ is actually an innate ability, people are born with it! Thats y u c some ppl seemed to learn things faster than others.. or remember things better! EQ are things that u learn throughout your life, many ppl have to learn about the "right thing' to do! Some ppl are smart and breezed through their life and remain ignorant about everything! Some ppl have EQ and used too much of it and gained nothing in the end too! Those who uses both well are the winners in life, winners in relationship-wise and achivement wise! =)
The irony of it all is... our civilization is still moving forward, nothing much has been done to address this issues! Only some of the more developed countries have researchers in the humanitarian science! Many a times, ppl think its just superficial! hahaha... well, think back on many instances on how "sorry", "thank you", "forgive me", "excuse me" and "your welcome" saved your ass from many unhappy issues that may happen?
People can use those lavishly though, i know it aint a crime, its just that many ppl say them unkowingly nowdays that it doesnt seem to mean much anymore... =/
I myself dont like to use them sparingly, and many ppl says i'm a fucked up retarded thug! Oh well, i just dont like to use them without a proper purpose! =)
One more thign i've noticed about ppl (including me) is that there's always a need for RIGHT or WRONG! The higher the hirachy sector u r, the more it is about right or wrong! Isnt it weird? ppl of higher stature always indulge in the right and wrong thingy... =/ Arguements in relationships often ends up in one being right and the other one being wrong... employees and employers end up with the same thing. What is wrong with everyone btw? What is wrong with the world? Right and wrong is taught in the mainstream education.. DuH, all problem questions in maths and science is either right or wrong! hahaha , so i guess ppl kinda like.... brought it to the usage in their life and eureka!, here we are!
If people can give up the stand of being "right" and learn to be apologetic for their mistakes, the world will be a better place! Sadly, this is not to be in the real world! I can only find this in the world of Utopia! But hey, at least i'm trying, its better than giving up though! Very much better!
Oh well, say hello to the real world! =)
posted by Kenzoid at 5:21 pm
3 Comments:
If u have read the newspaper recently (English or Chinese),u would hv known that there has been many cases of rape/murder in our country, which is disheartening actually. As a result, the public has to practice higher caution over their safety and be more suspicious with strangers. other than this, other crimes, such as domestic violence,snatch thefts,pornography, armed robbery,drug addiction and gangterism is also on the rise and getting more serious in our country.
In my opinion, this could be due to the stressful society we live in and unethical usage of technology such as Internet. When people are unable to control their desire, they will succumb to the temptation and do anything to fulfill their desires, even it is at the expense of others. Malaysia nowadays is more developed and progressive, but at the expense of more social problems and crimes rates, which cannot be ignored.
Actually I am not sure whether love means hv to say sorry or not, but i think it is a mixture of both. Sometimes in certain situations u say sorry and in others u don't. Maybe it is the factor of how close u r to the person or the seriousness of the problem. For example, for many problems, after it happens, saying sorry will not mend anything, so there is no difference in saying or not. this is the 'sorry no cure' principle, dude. So, before we do anything we must think carefully of the consequences to avoid having to say sorry later.
In a love triangle, say sorry also no use as the damage has been done, see?
Yes, i am evil! Keep those coming, i love ppl giving me unkind names! =)
As for brian, i agree with wat u've said. Really true indeed.
If u've noticed, in our society, it is seriously a lack of emotional intelligence education in our mainstream education. Lax of that creates a frail anatomy to any EQ. Saying sorry is always effective, it depends on when and how u say it. Love triangles and some matters tat cant be revoked... u claimed that sorry isnt of a use.. maybe... BUT, if its gonna escalate to such a scale, u shoulda've done something earlier! Thats wat emotional education is for! =)
And Brian, where have u been? wat u doing now?
Juz graduated, now looking for job.
I am now the 'honored' member of the 80,000 strong 'undead' unemployed uni graduate society, haha!
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