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Happy halloween peeps! Yea, this is the halloween weekend! Everything should be frightfully joyous! But well... some things do bug me lately.
Well u see, relationships between people and another is deemed to be complex. Well, most people would say so. To me, i keep it simple. Alot of people are really irresponsible in what they do and their reaction are usually misunderstanding. Immature peeps would ususally react in immature way and this has been one big problem to those people befriending the immatured. U might ask what exactly is immatured... i think there is a few elements involved in it. But the two main one is perhaps clear communication and appropriate feedback. If u cant even communicate propoerly and always leave things hanging, that would be the same as running away from problems. Communication may not necessary mean problems, but if one runs away from one, then more often than not, it must be problematic! C'mon, Y would anyone run away from communicating if they are enjoying them?? LoL The 2nd one is feedback. Actually, this is linked to communication, its more like a sub topic of communication, i point this out is becuz ppl always give the wrong feedback to right people or the right feedback to the wrong people. But giving wrong feedback isnt the worse. The worst one is when you left the communication dangling in the mid air and thats when relationship is at stake.
Everyone wants to know how much they are worth to another. Regardless of the fact that we all comes from all walks of life or anything, if your relationship management is down at the pits, i guess u wont go far either. Perhaps u're one of pure aesthetics... that would be different. But think of it this way, its because u're an eye candy now, thus people befriend u and tolerate your crapz, they will do all sorts of things to satisfy u because they feel good around u, they attain bragging rights. One day, if u lose your aesthetism, then its really an issue to see how your relationship management skills kicks in. People around gain no more bragging rights from the eye-candy, they leave... at that point of time, wat will happen? I'm pointing this article to people who have seriously lousy relationship interaction skills. I met a few such peepz and the thing is, most of them are actually either handsome or beautiful.
LoL, those dudes will defend themselves and claim that i'm writing this lashing becuz i'm jealous and stuffs, LoL, but i choose to call it a FACT. U c... if one isnt rich, nor is he/she sexy with an angelic face, then the only skill they have to socialise is their attitude in relation to the people all around them. Now, those people who are rich, sexy with an angelic face, all they need is to wave cash in the air or juz shine a beautiful smile, thats all they need to get friends. And trust me, peeps out there are sucker to such individuals. On the contrary, they would be called unkind names from others due to jealousy too. I know of some such individuals where they are totally loved by people around them! Yes, i mean totally. But lets look at this on the general point, most such individual have extreme type of friends and enemies. Either u are liked or hated.
Now, the reason for this is simple, they simply have bad interactive skills and they think that it doesnt matter cuz they can always get to meet new people to replace the old problematic ones(or at least they think they are a pain in the ass). New frens would turn to become old frens and so on and so forth.. this is juz gonna be a lame cycle like those of fashion changing with trends.
As for those non eye-candies, its because they think they aint good enough or they arent qualified to make frens of better calibre or they juz dont really bother. C'mon, blood flows in everyones veins. They are all red. So this only means that we are all the same, we are human. Life isnt born fair, but civilization progress has formed fairness into our cultures. Abuse it!
Most of us who dont have such priviledge like those of those mentioned above would think that they are inferior to them, and yes, its because they always get all the attention and HOOs HAAs.. isnt it? But i urge u peeps not to fret, we are all beautiful in some way or another. If u are nice and have a good interactive skill, u will be liked too... The interaction may not be immediately gained like those attained by those eye-candies, but hey, we should go for long term relationships! Not short-termed ones!
My views may be really discriminative and one sided, but u cant blame me when most of the examples i see fall on such category.
As for me, i try to keep in touch with all my frens. The only reason y we always lose frens is actually simple. Its because we didnt communicate.
After reading this, if u have anyone u really wanna keep near u, i urge u to pick up da phone and call them! C'mon, it wont hurt! This one phone call may go a long long way! =p
Remember one last thing, People are okay! Its their behaviour that suck! And the behaviour will goes along way in your life! It also reflects wat kinda stuck up life u have!
Without further ado, i shall stop! (tsk tsk, people expect this to be used in the beginning! =ppp)
Au Revior!
Well u see, relationships between people and another is deemed to be complex. Well, most people would say so. To me, i keep it simple. Alot of people are really irresponsible in what they do and their reaction are usually misunderstanding. Immature peeps would ususally react in immature way and this has been one big problem to those people befriending the immatured. U might ask what exactly is immatured... i think there is a few elements involved in it. But the two main one is perhaps clear communication and appropriate feedback. If u cant even communicate propoerly and always leave things hanging, that would be the same as running away from problems. Communication may not necessary mean problems, but if one runs away from one, then more often than not, it must be problematic! C'mon, Y would anyone run away from communicating if they are enjoying them?? LoL The 2nd one is feedback. Actually, this is linked to communication, its more like a sub topic of communication, i point this out is becuz ppl always give the wrong feedback to right people or the right feedback to the wrong people. But giving wrong feedback isnt the worse. The worst one is when you left the communication dangling in the mid air and thats when relationship is at stake.
Everyone wants to know how much they are worth to another. Regardless of the fact that we all comes from all walks of life or anything, if your relationship management is down at the pits, i guess u wont go far either. Perhaps u're one of pure aesthetics... that would be different. But think of it this way, its because u're an eye candy now, thus people befriend u and tolerate your crapz, they will do all sorts of things to satisfy u because they feel good around u, they attain bragging rights. One day, if u lose your aesthetism, then its really an issue to see how your relationship management skills kicks in. People around gain no more bragging rights from the eye-candy, they leave... at that point of time, wat will happen? I'm pointing this article to people who have seriously lousy relationship interaction skills. I met a few such peepz and the thing is, most of them are actually either handsome or beautiful.
LoL, those dudes will defend themselves and claim that i'm writing this lashing becuz i'm jealous and stuffs, LoL, but i choose to call it a FACT. U c... if one isnt rich, nor is he/she sexy with an angelic face, then the only skill they have to socialise is their attitude in relation to the people all around them. Now, those people who are rich, sexy with an angelic face, all they need is to wave cash in the air or juz shine a beautiful smile, thats all they need to get friends. And trust me, peeps out there are sucker to such individuals. On the contrary, they would be called unkind names from others due to jealousy too. I know of some such individuals where they are totally loved by people around them! Yes, i mean totally. But lets look at this on the general point, most such individual have extreme type of friends and enemies. Either u are liked or hated.
Now, the reason for this is simple, they simply have bad interactive skills and they think that it doesnt matter cuz they can always get to meet new people to replace the old problematic ones(or at least they think they are a pain in the ass). New frens would turn to become old frens and so on and so forth.. this is juz gonna be a lame cycle like those of fashion changing with trends.
As for those non eye-candies, its because they think they aint good enough or they arent qualified to make frens of better calibre or they juz dont really bother. C'mon, blood flows in everyones veins. They are all red. So this only means that we are all the same, we are human. Life isnt born fair, but civilization progress has formed fairness into our cultures. Abuse it!
Most of us who dont have such priviledge like those of those mentioned above would think that they are inferior to them, and yes, its because they always get all the attention and HOOs HAAs.. isnt it? But i urge u peeps not to fret, we are all beautiful in some way or another. If u are nice and have a good interactive skill, u will be liked too... The interaction may not be immediately gained like those attained by those eye-candies, but hey, we should go for long term relationships! Not short-termed ones!
My views may be really discriminative and one sided, but u cant blame me when most of the examples i see fall on such category.
As for me, i try to keep in touch with all my frens. The only reason y we always lose frens is actually simple. Its because we didnt communicate.
After reading this, if u have anyone u really wanna keep near u, i urge u to pick up da phone and call them! C'mon, it wont hurt! This one phone call may go a long long way! =p
Remember one last thing, People are okay! Its their behaviour that suck! And the behaviour will goes along way in your life! It also reflects wat kinda stuck up life u have!
Without further ado, i shall stop! (tsk tsk, people expect this to be used in the beginning! =ppp)
Au Revior!
posted by Kenzoid at 10:37 pm
2 Comments:
Wah, your blog is so long lar, but there is some real issues that are really exist among us. From my point of view, I agree with your view on the lack of communication between people will lose our friends. In reality, most of us are looking to be accepted as a member of a group to be secured. After we are a member of a group, then we will not make effort to make other friends.
By being in a group, a person will fell happier and more confident due to the social security they get.
I myself has not been accepted into any group really since i am not that good looking or hunky or sociable as others. I always find it difficult to communicate with other people, maybe lacking the friendliness. I always envy the group of students in college that support each other in studies and can have fun together. I mean that's the best part and meaning of life, right? For me, I am still looking for that type of experience and not really satisfied with my campus life.
Now I know I missed a lot of things in my campus life.
For example, in collge, your classmates will not go against you physically, but just by ignoring you in class or lecture. I don't bear any grudge against anyone for not being interested as my friend, but it is just that I wonder maybe I am lacking some social skills to be as 'cool' or 'happening' enough to be qualified to many friend.
From your blog, i think i belong those with bad interactive skills. I seldom have a smiling face and maybe that's why they don't talk to me. For me, I think I am frustrated on not having the social security that I am looking for. Social security in the sense that having a group of trusty friends or a loving girlfriend.
I don't have both, so I am feeling some emptiness
and lonely as well.
But I will not be depressed or be sad all day. Life goes on, rite?
okaylar, keep those blog up and i will visit your site again. :)
Mr B! LoL.. thanks for your comments.. i hope u have no offence or wateva from wat i've said... i was juz stating my opinion! *GRINS*
And pls have more posttttt! hee!
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